Here’s a crazy idea: there is no such thing as casual sex.
Here’s another crazy idea: it’s a psychological construct designed by those who don’t want to experience any moral dissonance about having sex with people outside of a relationship.
And just in case you’d like another shocker: you can’t fool hormones. They’re on the side of the monogamists.
Perhaps I may still be in the minority to have the gall to speak against sexual promiscuity in a world where it is an increasingly adopted and applauded lifestyle choice, but that seems to be the most important thing one can do who has any consideration for human betterment. There seems to be an increasing number of these same members of society who choose to exercise hypocrisy by turning a blind eye to the emotional and psychological damage that such promiscuity causes.
I’m not the one who should have to tell you, dear reader, that sex was not designed to be casual in human beings, as a simple bit of research is enough to demonstrate. One example is in reference to two important hormones that are involved in sexual intimacy namely oxytocin and vasopressin, and their influence on the behavior of human beings.
The former creates attachment within a female towards her mate.
The latter is known to be responsible for a male’s jealousy and possessiveness towards his female involved. It is no coincidence that these hormones are most present when sexual intimacy is involved and it is also then no surprise that together, they create a very powerful psychological and emotional connection between the two parties involved.
Now whether or not this connection is more subconscious than conscious can explain a lot about the awareness of certain individuals involved and why a number of the promiscuous among us proudly assert that they “don’t get attached”.
I don’t need hormones, however, to prove that having no respect for intimacy is dangerous and destructive. I don’t need science and biology to be on my side when I say that any intimacy that is outside of the realm of love is not only undesirable and destructive, but it is by extension, immoral. This is a self-evident truth and it is about time that society and the members within to stop fooling themselves.
Much love,
Zen Politics
“In Defense of Monogamy” – Published September 1, 2013
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